What I've learned by mopping floors over the last 4 months in Turkey.
What I often find as a human and a coach is just how our toughest times invite us to growth.
In my recent newsletter (don't forget to subscribe, and I'll gladly send it your way), I opened up about the challenging journey I've been on for the past 8 months, particularly in terms of my finances. It's been a ripple effect from the closure of my business due to Covid, a painful experience of public shaming, and the lingering money trauma from my childhood when we lost our home and my emotional connection with my parents suffered.
For the past 4 months, I've been living and working at a beautiful Bed and Breakfast nestled in the hills of Bodrum. This experience has taught me valuable lessons about both life and business, and I'd love to share some insights with you.
First and foremost, pursuing your dreams doesn't guarantee a smooth path. There will be rough terrain along the way. That's why having a support system, if possible, is crucial. Often, the difficulty of the journey is compounded by our own judgments and thoughts about it. Challenging our deeply-held limiting beliefs becomes essential for pushing through.
Celebrating small wins is a game-changer. It keeps the momentum going and fuels your progress. Remember, success is not solely measured by grand achievements but also by the little victories that accumulate over time.
Let's talk about comparison. It sucks. It's neither helpful nor necessary. You're on your unique learning journey, moving at your own pace. Embrace your individual path and resist the temptation to compare it with others'.
Now, let's discuss caretaking. Taking care of our homes, properties, fellow humans, and animals is of utmost importance. It contributes to the well-being of our community and economy. We should value caretaking for its significance rather than belittle it. It's a role that deserves respect.
Building genuine, reciprocal relationships is a key aspect of life. Some things cannot be bought with money. When you find yourself in a position where you can't pay for certain things, rely on these relationships to help you navigate through. I'm immensely proud of the digital, coaching, and domestic work I've been involved in during these past months. I consider myself incredibly fortunate to have experienced the power of reciprocal relationships, where I wasn't made to feel inferior simply because I couldn't contribute financially. Unfortunately, our society often places undue importance on money, especially in the small business world, and it becomes toxic. But here, I had the opportunity to utilize my many gifts—the power of my mind, creativity, and physical abilities—to make meaningful contributions without feeling diminished. It's a true blessing and a miraculous combination of circumstances.
Final Thoughts– some of the scariest circumstances can turn out to be something that you really needed to go through for the next phase of your life. I’m right alongside you making mistakes, growing, working on making my life as rich as it can be. If you’re someone who wants a partner in this process, I’m taking on 2 more clients for my Year of Transformation 1-on-1 coaching experience. It’s a weekly call for one year (don’t worry we work around holidays and special events and even unplanned emergencies). If you want my support for the next year, sign up here!