Well, we have very sneaky brains.
One of the reasons coaches are so helpful is that no matter who you are, you have a very sneaky brain who’s goal is to keep you safe (and more than likely steer you away from the life you actually want to live).
I woke up this morning and I fell for it, again.
My brain was like,
“Hey, when are you gonna get your shit together?”
and
“Don’t you know it’s March 1st and you didn’t achieve your February goals?”
and
“Probably other people are doing a much better job than you at this whole life thing.”
Ugh. My brain has been trying this shame tactic for YEARS. For as long as we’ve known each other. Well, for most of our lives together anyway.
I cannot believe I fell for it, again.
But also, I can. These types of thoughts are programmed into my brain not because there’s any truth to them, but because I’ve been thinking them for so long.
This is why having a coach is SO helpful. Coaches help you see these thoughts as just that– thoughts that are optional. Thoughts that are meant to snap you into action, but that also make you feel like shit on the way.
So, what’s my brain trying to get me to do?
To create safety. More than likely.
My brain is pretty certain (based on it’s own limited view of the world) that being on top of finances will help me avoid disaster. And that’s sort of true. But also, what it truly thinks is this– that I cannot survive financial risk. That I won’t be able to survive more challenging paths.
And it’s wrong about that.
Why do our brains shame us? It’s simple. They’re trying to get us to act in ways that they believe will lead to comfort. Safety.
They’re trying to keep us in the cave.
My brain DOES NOT want me to move to France. To sell my furniture and totally redecorate my apartment. It does not want me to find a way to pay for this different life.
And it knows that shaming me with talk about me being irresponsible will most likely work.
EXCEPT.
I’ve caught onto this little game.
It’s just not true.
Feeling shame does NOT help me live my life.
Being shamed by my own brain just isn’t necessary.
I WANT to live a grand life, full of adventure and mistakes and love and fear and joy and pain.
And my brain needs a check every now and then to get on board with that decision.
That’s why I have a coach. It’s why I became a coach.
What you ultimately want and what your brain tells you might not be in alignment. If they were, you’d already have that goal.
So, become aware of that sneaky brain. And hire a coach to help you stay on track with your best and biggest dreams.
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Each session is 2 hours. The first hour is Coaching– “tell me what’s going on and what’s wrong and why you think it’s that way” and the second is Consulting– “now let’s decide what we’re going to do about it.”
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