Comfort can be stagnation in disguise.
So many people come to me because they want to experience more PURPOSE in their work lives. The first thing we touch on is how ready they are for discomfort.
Comfort is necessary. When we’re sick. At the end of a long day of hard work. When we’re healing. Comfort is awesome and necessary and I love it.
But DIScomfort is also necessary. When we’re growing. When we’re actively changing our brains and our lives. When we’re done with healing for the moment and are working on something challenging.
Comfort can be stagnation in disguise if–
You don’t really need it
You have too much of it in your life
You are using it and it’s not contributing to healing
You are experiencing a lot of negative side-effects to it
So, do you need comfort? Only YOU know this. Becoming your own authority on your body is imperative for you to answer this question. Typically, comfort will be a part of daily life. After you’ve gone out and kicked ass doing what you love, you’ll still feel depleted and spent (typically in a really good way) and you’ll want the comfort of a nourishing meal, a comfortable bed, something other than work to interest your mind and senses.
So, do you have too much comfort in your life? If your life isn’t challenging at all, you probably aren’t spending any time out of that comfy comfort zone. If you’re doing anything purposefully challenging (which is what many of us want to do with our lives) then you will be in emotional discomfort teaching your brain new thoughts, confronting old and unhelpful patterns, facing fears and taking chances. If you aren’t experiencing any of that you might be spending too much time in comfort.
Are you trying to comfort yourself to healing? Healing often doesn’t come in a comfortable place the entire time. Certainly at some points. But sometimes healing is setting a boundary that might make you uncomfortable. Sometimes healing is quitting your job or breaking up with a partner or friend. Sometimes healing takes forms that is not comfortable at all.
Are you experiencing a bunch of negative side effects to comfort? Maybe you spend a lot of time longing– for the blog posts to get written, for the outline of your book to get started, for the right type of work or client to come your way. More than likely you’re staying too comfortable. All of the things we want that we don’t have right now require us getting uncomfortable in one way or another.
The good news is that it only takes some awareness and facing some short-term emotional vibrations for discomfort to start working in your life.
xoxo
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