Your emotional home.
When I first moved to my new loft, it took me a while to remember I’d moved.
I’d get in my car and start going the wrong way on the Shoreway (I live in Cleveland currently) and then have to get off and turn around–for about a week.
My body and brain were used to going home. Not really thinking about it. But it was the wrong home.
One time I actually pulled into my old driveway before I realized I didn’t live there anymore.
I think the same happens with a lot of the things we practice over and over and over again–including our emotional reactions.
Your Emotional Home.
The place you go–just because you’ve practiced it a lot.
It may or may not be the place you want to live forever, but it’s where you go.
It may or may not be healthy, but it’s where you go.
You’re used to it.
Why should we study our Emotional Home?
Well, for a few reasons:
We might not want to live there anymore
We might have to plan to move–and hire ‘movers’ to help (coaches / therapists / drugs)
Our emotional home might have been built for us at a totally different time, in different circumstances
Studying it gives us insight into who we are and how we can heal and choose a different future
Our Emotional Home:
feels comfortable just because we know it
can be a great place, but it can also be a terrible place
Is how we spend our lives–because we live in our bodies and brains and the experience there is so much of how we exist in the world
feels terrible if it’s super messy and not cared for
can be cluttered and overwhelming
can have too much stuff floating around that we don’t need
is a reflection of how we’ve learned to survive (and we should thank our brain for helping us, but now we can take over)
Can we change our Emotional Home?
Sure.
Will it take work? Yes.
It will take consistency.
It will take triggering–a situation that triggers our brain to act a certain way–and awareness, and most likely support.
That’s where therapists and coaches come in. Emotional growth requires emotional support.
I sort of plateaued in my coaching and therapy until my coach introduced this concept. It gave me assurance that I could practice a new thought and a new way of thinking and design my own emotional home AND have support in that–rather than just requiring emotional support that living in my existing drafty, paint-peeling, dark emotional home required.
Let me say that again.
Staying inside my existing Emotional Home (that feels terrible to live in) requires lots of outside support.
Choosing a new home requires support, too.
But only one of those options changes my life.
The building of a new home requires resources, planning, support and effort.
But at the end, you’re in a new home. One that you can be more intentional about. One that supports who you are today. One that reflects where you want to go and how you want to live.
Coaches can help you design your emotional home. Coaches can help you identify the support you’ll need. They can help you draw up the plans and make a list for moving. They can be there to remind you why you’re doing this work when you forget or get overwhelmed or scared or just have second thoughts.
That’s Emotional Support. And we all need it.
So, let’s get building your very own Emotional Home–perfectly designed for who you want to be and what you want your life’s experience to be.
C O A C H I N G + C O N S U L T I N G
I coach women who are at any stage in their entrepreneurial journey–and who are looking to find clarity, direction and growth.
I consult on business plans (and I can create yours, too). I’m a content creator and strategist, because all of these things are linked for female founders who are going through growth spurts (or who have plateaued and need help making moves).
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